Making parents happy is the child’s obligation, here are some ways
Among the most meritorious people in life are both parents. Because there is a woman who has sincerely fought in life to the point of risking her life because of a child. The Qur’an states it is hamalathuummuhu, kurhanwadha’athukurhaa (it is she who has conceived with difficulty, and gave birth to her with difficulty). Not only that, there is the figure of a tough man, who during the day looks for a mouthful of rice who tirelessly struggles to raise a child.
In fact, the only human who is close to us everyday, who never takes revenge, never takes revenge for a crime is a mother to her child, even though she may have feelings of revenge on other people. No matter how hurt the parents are because of the child’s attitude, there is not the slightest sense of revenge for him, he only hopes and prays that his child will become a good person.
So, it is appropriate that the Qur’an reminds the children of humans to respect and serve both of them. Allah confirms in the letter al-Nisa verse 36:
وَاعْبُدُوا اللهَ وَلاَتُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا
In general, this verse explains worship Allah and do not associate partners with him, in any form, and in any way. Man’s obligation is to worship Him, followed by the next obligation, wabilwalidainiihsanaan (do good to both parents). So, doing good, respecting both parents, is the second obligation in Islam, after the obligation to worship Allah and the prohibition of all forms of polytheism. Ibn Kathir said, respecting the mother, respecting a father is an obligation, why? it is with his services and struggles that a child can feel life.
So how to respect and be devoted to both parents?
Prof. QuraishShihab stated: do something in any form that can please the feelings of both parents, not just respect it, even though our parents are non-Muslims. This message can simply be understood if someone as a student or student, or scientist makes both parents happy, because our knowledge is useful for others. As a person who has material advantages, help his shortcomings, fulfill his needs, lighten the burden of his life and so on.
Of course, there are many ways that can be done to make both parents feel emotional and proud to see their children. There are at least three issues that make parents feel happy and pleased with their children.
First, every mother and father
Will always be touched to see and witness their child at the graduation process, both of them will be impatient and excited from village to city to see their child at the graduation. The emotion was because his son could become an educated person. That’s why, seek knowledge as best you can and use the opportunities in your youth to learn as an effort to make your parents happy.
Second, parents are always happy and proud
If their children can live independently, can fulfill their daily needs, they are no longer a burden to others, instead they lighten the burden of others. So, trying as much as possible to be able to live independently or no longer depend on both parents for material problems and even lighten the family’s economic burden is the best way to make parents happy. The joy of parents cannot be described when they can see their children grow up to become educated people who are able to live independently
Third, parents will grow a sense of joy and happiness
If they can witness directly their children tying the sacred ropes of marriage. Because, among the rights that the child gets from his parents is to give his blessing and marry him if he is able. So to please his feelings, try to choose a life partner, who can respect and appreciate both parents.
In short, making both parents happy is the entrance to open the love and pleasure of Allah. Therefore, there are many ways that can be done to make both parents happy and happy as a way for us to be devoted to him, the most important thing is to be devoted to him knows no time as long as our heartbeats are still beating whether they are both gone, especially if he can still be together in our lives.